Abby’s story

Hi! My name is Abby and I’m 13 years old. I was born with ABS on my left hand and my right foot. On my left hand, my index finger is a little nub. The rest of my fingers are full, but the skin looks kind of weird. It isn’t too noticeable. On my right foot, my big toe is a nub. The rest of my toes are perfectly fine.

My mom always tells me that when she found out I had ABS, she cried the whole day I was born. The doctors reassured her that it would’ve stop me from much, that I’d learn to cope with it. Later in the day, a nurse told my mom about how there was a little boy, Jackson, that wouldn’t get to go home with his parents because he had passed away.

Every day I try hiding it. I’m not ashamed, I just don’t like feeling different. I get made fun of pretty often, being in middle school. I’ve been called “stubby” or “nub”. Therefore, I try hiding it. I keep my hand in my sleeve whenever I can or I cover it in some way. I only have to hide my foot when I wear flip flops. I’ll stand with my other shoe over my right foot. I get uncomfortable talking about it. My parents have never really talked to me about it. I’m not ashamed that I’m different. I just don’t like to tell people about it. I worry about what they’ll say it if they’ll just stop talking to me.

My teachers have noticed that I hide my hands. In 3rd grade, my math teacher noticed it. She confronted me about it. It was hard to open up. I was scared that others would hear about it. I didn’t want to be different. Most of my friends still haven’t noticed it to this day, even ones I’ve known since I was 6. I worry about what my husband will think when I get married and he goes to hold my hand or put a ring on my finger. It sounds stupid. I sound ashamed. But I’m not.

Other people have it much worse than me. I understand that. I’m proud of who I am. Currently, I am on a volleyball team and sometimes it’s hard to set. But I’m learning how to get better. Also, I’ve learned to play the ukulele, guitar, and clarinet. I’m proud of who I am. Even though sometimes I wish I was normal, I’m proud. I wouldn’t want to change for anything in the world. I hope that anyone else with ABS is proud too. Right now, I’m deciding whether or not I want surgery to make my hand look better. If anyone has an opinion, please let me know. Thank you!

5 thoughts on “Abby’s story

  1. Hi Abby,
    I can relate very much to what you have shared. I also have ABS, I am 35 years old. Things do become better as you get older. God has a plan for your life, He will show you as you seek Him and learn to follow Jesus. I will pray you choose to do that! He has transformed my life and brought so much good from a hard situation. Blessings! Amy

  2. Abby- I am 32. I was born with ABS. Our hands actually look very similar. The people in your life who love you are the ones that matter. The others mean nothing…

  3. Hi Abby,
    You are an amazing and strong individual. Don’t ever let anyone tell u can’t do anything. If your friends or your future husband can’t like u for who u are, than they’re not worth having. It’s what’s inside your heart that counts. Good luck to u!

  4. My Granddaughter was born with no left hand 2 weeks ago…. so… I found this site…. stories like yours, are helping an old guy like me understand the things, she will face down the road. Thanks for writing…..

  5. I am just proud of you! I want to tell u that i have a little girl that has ABS and we are from the middle-east. Dont worry much about it, and your future husband will love you for who you are ๐Ÿ˜‰ good luck with your life.

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