Megan’s Story

Hello everyone! My name is Megan and I was born missing three fingers on my left hand, and also have a smaller palm on the affected side due to ABS. Fortunately, I have really good function in my hand and have had absolutely no trouble throughout life (I’m 30).

The hardest part of this defect was dealing with my own fears regarding what others would think while in highschool. In 30 years I can recall 3 times I’ve been made fun of. All three times I had a ton of people there to stand up for me.

My parents made having a birth defect a thousand times better for me simply by acting like nothing was different. I did a lot as a child from girl scouts and softball, to swim teams and cheerleading. My parents also spoke with every educator I was assigned to until I reached 5th grade giving them a heads up that I could do everything and to not treat me differently or act like anything was wrong.

I am now a grown woman. I have a loving family of my own, and I work as a nurse. Over the years I’ve also acquired a USPA skydiving lisence and have completed 436 jumps. I rock climb and do all sorts of other risky outdoor activities as well. I type just as fast, if not faster than the majority and have pretty much done well in everything I’ve tried.

The point is that something as simple as this in my case anyway isn’t a setback at all. I’d feel like a horrible deceptive person if someone had try to make things easier for me in anyway. There’s nothing wrong with me. I’d definitely rather have this than most other things I can think of. Id even prefer it over being obese or having a bad case of acne. For any kids born different with a similar case know that your not. You’re just like everyone else, you just have an awesome conversation starter, and a free excuse to be nosey in a lot of cases:)

6 thoughts on “Megan’s Story

  1. Hi my name is Dave. I am 70 years old. As a youngster some kids made fun of my hand that has a thumb and 2 fingers. I also have only 4 toes on one foot and one leg is 3″ shorter than the other. I grew up on a farm and picked up rocks and took care of livestock as well as any one else. The short leg has bothered me as it affects my posture and curvature of spine which is painful. I do have one shoe built up and that seems to be what I really dislike about my situation. The hand is kind of an ID that sets me apart and I don’t mind it at all. I was so glad to learn about ABS. I was fearful that our children or grandchildren would be deformed so it was good to learn this is not genetic!! The internet and this site have given me a great sense of belonging to a community of ABS folks.

  2. Hi my son only have four fingers two on each hand. I should say that we live in Barbados. He is seven and is having a hard time at school. I am trying all i can to hlep him . Is there anything that you can say to hlep me with him.

    1. Hi Nadia , My daughter aged 8 has ABS. Her left leg amputated,on the right foot toes not developed and on both her hands she has nubs for fingers just on her left hand the index and thumb fully developed. I fear for my child daily, as she in grade 3 yet rarely comes home with complains about other children making fun of her. Which on the one side should be good thing, but on the other i think she is holding back as she gets older, and all i think about is her teenage years and how will she cope. But I take it one day at a time and advise her to do the same.

  3. Hi Megan. My name is Sarah, I’m 26 and I have ABS as well. Like you, my parents raised me to do things like everyone else. I was born without a left hand and only a thumb on my right. I too have been skydiving! But only once and tandem. I would love to go again! Growing up it never bothered me, I mean I knew I was different but it didn’t affect me. Lately though it has been bothering me and I don’t know why. I am working as a receptionist at a health clinic and I am going to school to be a wellness coach. I just feel like I have been cheated and the it’s not fair and why me? have been going through my brain. I am truly surprised that this is bothering me now. Did you ever go through anything like this?
    Sarah from Oregon.

    1. Hello Sarah. Im sorry no one has responded yet. Well i can tell you ive had those same questions go through my mind for years of my life. Just remember that It really doesn’t matter why it happened. The question is What am i going to do with it? How will you make it better for people who have it after you? Or will you live a normal life as you have done so far. I hope this helps.
      – Jeremy of Tucson, AZ

    2. Hi Sarah. I also was born with ABS affecting my left hand and feet. My parents never treated me any differently, which was good. I’ve never really thought why did this happen to me. I feel more like, thank God I am here. It could have been so much worse. Everyone has some sort of difficulty one way or another. We could have been born with worse problems, or not at all. If you start feeling down or resentful about it, go volunteer at your local children’s hospital. It gives you a totally different perspective, and it does wonders to feel that you are positively impacting the life of someone that needs help.

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