14 months ago on October 20,2009 I gave birth to my little bundle of joy, De’Vante. He was born with ABS which caused him 2 have a below the knee amputation in urtero on his left leg. On top of that, he was also born with fused fingers and toes on his left hand and right foot.
Before I had my first ultrasound, I had never heard anything about ABS…and I would have never dreamed it could happen to my child because I was so careful during my pregnancy. When my son finally came out of the hospital due to being born 9 weeks early I went through a period of…I don’t want to say embarrassment…but I used to cover up my sons leg so none could see. It took me forever not to cover him up when we went out…and to this day I never let people I don’t know touch him. I know one day I will grow out of this but it doesn’t make my sons future any easier!!! How do you get over feeling guilty or like there was something you could have done differently? My heart squeezes every time I see a baby my sons age walking because I know that if we were dealt a different hand my son would be running by now instead of trying to learn to use his prosthetic. But on the other hand, my son is my joy, my life, my heart…and I wouldn’t have him any other way than the way he is.
~ Khadya
my baby born with the right foot missing,and two right fingers missing……I need help…….